A motherless Mothers Day….

No matter how long it’s been since you’ve lost your mother, holidays like this make it apparent just how much you miss her.

She is the glue, the person who brought you into this world, the person who held you when you cried and put food on the table.

She was the crazy lady that cheered too loud at your soccer games and the one who never stopped being your biggest fan.

Mother’s Day is a day for us to pay tribute to these women. But what happens when your only way to say thanks is to put an outdated picture of her on social media or send a silent prayer for her to hear?

For some it’s been years since you’ve celebrated with your mom, others, maybe months or days.

Whatever the time frame, it never gets easier.
But celebrating Mother’s Day, with her gone should still be a day of celebration.
So find that picture of her from when she was a young hot thing with outstandingly bad hair.

Find letters or notes that she wrote.

Ask your dad to tell you a story that you’ve never heard.

Creep through her Facebook and laugh at her posts.

Listen to an old voicemail or watch a black and white video.

Remind yourself of her.

Smell her old perfume.
Rummage through your closet to find her old shirt.

Make her memory come alive.

just because she isn’t here for you to spoil, doesn’t mean you don’t get to take part in the festivities.

She loved you before you were on earth. So you can continue to love her now that she’s not.

And if there is anything I’ve learned since losing my mom, it’s that you start recognizing other moms and their important role. Spoil one of them.

So never believe that it’s motherless Mother’s Day, because you’ll never not have a mother.
She’s always there. Forever and always.
Happy Mother’s Day to my sweet mom and all the moms on earth and in heaven.

Squeeze them extra tight today.

Choose love,


  • Laura Szalay
    Posted at 19:21h, 10 May Reply

    xo to you and your mom….. she was amazing and she is still cheering for you

  • Kathy O-P
    Posted at 13:46h, 16 May Reply

    My mom left this earth when I was 11 yrs., old and not a single day goes by that she isn’t woven into the details of my day. She is always with me, can’t stop it and don’t want to. Mother’s Day is still so significant to me and becomes even more so as I watch your generation become mothers, pulling from the instinct and ways of their mother’s, it’s a beautiful thing to watch!
    Again Kelsey, your writing moves and inspires me!! Keep pushing that pencil!!😉

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